Bedwetting is a common part of childhood, but for many kids (and parents), it can feel like a big deal. The fear of embarrassment or frustration can make it a tricky topic to navigate. However, the way you talk to your child about bedwetting can make all the difference in how they feel about themselves and how they handle it. Here’s how to approach the conversation with empathy, understanding, and encouragement.
1. Normalise the experience
One of the most important things you can do is reassure your child that bedwetting is completely normal. Many kids experience it, and it’s often just a part of growing up. Let them know they are not alone—millions of children go through the same thing. You can even share personal stories (yours or someone else's) to show that it’s nothing to be ashamed of.
2. Use a calm and supportive tone
Your child is likely already feeling self-conscious about bedwetting. The last thing they need is to feel like they are in trouble. Avoid frustration or blame, and instead, offer comfort and understanding. A simple, "Hey, accidents happen—it's no big deal," can go a long way in making them feel safe and supported.
3. Focus on solutions, not problems
Rather than dwelling on the issue, talk about what can help. Here are a few positive steps:
- Encourage bathroom visits before bedtime.
- Limit fluids in the evening, especially caffeinated drinks.
- Use waterproof bed wetting mats for easier clean-up.
- Consider using a bedwetting alarm if appropriate.
Make these strategies feel like teamwork rather than a punishment. Phrasing things as "Let’s try this together" keeps the conversation constructive.
4. Avoid negative labels or reactions
Never use words like "lazy" or "babyish" when talking about bedwetting. Even teasing in a light-hearted way can make a child feel embarrassed or ashamed. If siblings or other family members are aware, make sure they understand that teasing is not acceptable.
5. Be patient and reassuring
Bedwetting is often out of a child’s control, and it usually resolves on its own. Avoid setting unrealistic expectations or pressuring them to stop overnight. Reassure your child that their body is still learning and that they will outgrow it in time.
6. When to seek medical advice
Most bedwetting is completely normal, but in some cases, it can be linked to an underlying medical condition or emotional stress. If your child suddenly starts wetting the bed after being dry for a long time or experiences pain, excessive thirst, or other unusual symptoms, consult a GP or paediatrician to rule out medical concerns.
Final Thoughts
The way you handle bedwetting can shape your child’s self-esteem and emotional well-being. By keeping the conversation supportive, judgment-free, and solution-focused, you help them feel safe and confident. Remember, this phase won’t last forever, but the trust and comfort you build with your child during this time will stay with them for years to come.
Check out our blog HERE for 10 tips on creating a calm and relaxing bedtime atmosphere.
Have you had success in navigating this topic with your child? Share your experiences in the comments!
